Developing Proper Self-Appreciation
How of you habitually think about yourself? What is your self-image?
Many people are unable to answer so simple and vital a question. Do you have a high opinion of yourself? Do you see yourself as a successful, self-confident happy person? DO you, in fact, like to be yourself? Do you enjoy being you?
If you can answer “Yes” to such questions, you have that most valuable of assets a good self-image.
Few people in fact, have a flawless self-image. Many people, indeed, have a poor opinion of themselves. They
feel sensitive and inferior. They cling to too many memories of failure.
Perhaps they are conscious of some physical defect, some lack in background or education. Perhaps they see
themselves as negligible and unimportant. Is it any wonder that the world takes them at their face value?
By and large, our self-image is reflected back to us from our contracts with our fellows. If we actually dislike
ourselves, we shall dislike other human beings. And they, in turn, will dislike us.
Thus, the image we have of
ourselves is so important that it may well
be the key to our well-being, popularity
and success. A poor self-image is shown
in social unease, sensitivity to slights,
feelings of envy and jealousy, avid hunger for praise, and that most
destructive of human feelings – self-pity.
What, in fact, is your self-image? Where could it be improved? Our
self-image grows in the same way as any other concept does – through
You try yourself out, you hear what others say about you, you see
yourself at first hand or in a mirror, you hear your own voice, you notice
how others react to you, you compare yourself with others, you note your
successes and your failures, you judge yourself by what you read- you
make a continuous self-assessment.
Unfortunately, just as our knowledge of anything in the world may
be limited, inexact, or even erroneous, so also our self-knowledge may be
inexact, limited and full of error.
The self-image may need correcting and
supplementing. It may even need to be defined more clearly.
Have you any inferiority feelings? In what circumstances do
they attack you? Have you ever suffered from adverse
criticism, scolding and belittling?
The way to correct a faulty self-image is by a
conscious self-assessment. Begin by realizing that you are
different from others, as we all are, and that it is the very
differences that male your contribution to life so valuable.
Get to know that unique “you” which is so valuable.
Go where you can be by your-self in quit, and think through
your desires and aims in life, what you would like to do.
List the things in your make-up and experience that
are for you – your good points, your assets, the things you can
do better than other people, the things you like to do, the
things that excite you and make you feel enthusiastic.
Never mind about your lacks or faults. You want to
reveal your personality and its potentialities. There is nobody
No doubt you have been hurt and damaged. You have
memories that are unhelpful which assail you when you least
what them. We all have these things. It is very important to
learn to forget. A good “forgettery” for the bad is equally as
important as a good memory for the good.
Those snags, those failures, the outdates criticisms
from people who no longer mater in your life, those mistakes
that keep popping into your mind must be disposed of.
To try to make positive affirmations without
eliminating the negatives would be like planting choice plants
among pernicious weeds. We must find a method of uprooting
Develop an active forgettery by negating the negative.
Realize that the past has gone. The old thoughts, criticisms
and failures are mere shadows. They exist nowhere but in
your own thoughts.